You know i did not really want to write this but i feel i have to have to get rid of the feeling that i want to tell the people involved
just what i really think about them. I cant mention names as it just would not be fair on the child involved and in fact i cant help feeling a little
bit sorry for the mother. I would be in a class of ingorance if i did not try to understand their issues and struggles in life and every day going's on.
But sometimes when somebody goes out their way to annoy you and do things thats are un-acceptable its time to say something or just to get it off my chest.
When you have a child with Autism it only takes one thing to change everything. One thing different and its like the world has suddenly changed and there is no way back.
A few months ago a new lady and her daughter arrived in the area i do not and still do not really know them. But one saturday my front door was open as a phone engineer was
in and out when the said two people walked in our flat and starting looking around.Daniel knows the daughter from school . She does not has Autism but does has moderate learning disabilty
to which i was told was because of the way things had gone in her life. The mother seemed to be in need of a wash as all i can say is that they really did smell. They sat down after walking round
the flat and asked for a coffee. As it was dinner time and we cant change Daniels routine we offered them some dinner too. The mother refused but her daughter enjoyed it and said thanks.
After about one hour i said we had to go out. but it fell on deaf ears as they stayed for about 8 hours.
i not really sure why. Then the killer question. could i give her daughter a lift to school as it takes her 30 mins every morning to walk the journey with her daughter. i of course without thinking said yes
. but i did not stop to think. Daniel when he found out was in tears he was beside himself. I failed to think about the routine change on Daniel. The school is only round the corner anyway and does not take
30 minutes to walk too. Anyway i had no choice but to tell them due to Daniels Autism (of which they dont know what it is or how it effects him at this time )i Could not take them to school.
I took it up on my self to go round and tell them the next day. That night the door knocked at about 11 pm and it was the daughter apparently she had asked Daniel for our phone number and he had not wanted to give it so gave
them a wrong number. THe daughter stood on our door step shouting Daniel had given her a fake number and made such a fuss my wife gave her the right number and she went.
Wrong move . they rang and rang asking silly things and on the sunday my wife used 1471 and rang them to tell them that i could not take them to school.
I did see them later outside where i explained as best as i could in a nice way why i could not do it.
They seemed to listen. But the next day some trouble happened and the daughter rang us up trying to tell us that Daniel had told something to someone he should not have.
Even if it was true my Son was not told by me or any one else he couldnt tell friends where he lived in case they found out where this mother and daughter lived, but what angered me was that the mother told me she was annoyed with her daughter
because she had told school friends where she lived. Daniel did not know she lived close until after the day i was told she was annoyed with her daughter for telling friends.
of course we told them Daniel never told anyone and if he did he would not have been at fault. Plus although i did not say it although i wanted too .they are the ones who walked in un invited and stayed 8 hours and told us all there history.
Daniel does not like being touched yet the daughter keeps touching him at school and quite frankly its as effected Daniel.(daniel has told her(several times) he does not like being touched)
Plus since that day where they were told i could not give them a lift things have happened.
I know it sounds petty but hairbands the same as she wears are tied round car wiper blades. the front door keeps knockings and making Daniel jump(the letter box is now bolted shut) broken keys in gate lock .Chewing gum stuck on car door handles etc etc ..
The mother making sure she knows we know she is around by standing in front of school doors and even shouting things at me.
Daniel has a dog phobia he really is scared of barking dogs.
Now they have a dog which is outside with no cover from the weather from early morning to about 12 at night. they never pick up its dog mess and other neighbours to begin with thought the dog was mine. and complained to me about its barking.
it never stops barking. I have had to spend money blocking off the fence so Daniel was not to scared to use our door.
It also smells really bad of the dog mess and to be quite honest makes you feel sick.
its not fair on the dog or us.
She has already had a go at people who she has heard shouting shut up to her dog.
I dont know whats going to happen next but the way she stares at us is not very nice.
I just hope that the move of address were waiting for happens soon.
Its proves one thing. the mother did not want to be friends she JUST wanted a lift to save her a five minute walk.
I sorry if it sounds means but Daniel has a routine and cant share his car space with anyone or it will effect his whole day.
NOw if anyone reads this who thinks i am being mean as i was told something the other day by someone else who told me that they been telling people i live right by and im too mean to give them a lift.
well this is my chance to say i did offer but my son comes first.
Do You think i am being Mean.
Would you even consider stopping if it was raining after what they have done.
I do feel mean but they sort of imtimadating us now.
And i cant tell the mother what i really think as the daughter is 2 years older than Daniel and quite a lot taller and I dont want Daniel being bullied by her.
I know everyone has there own troubles but i have enough of my own without taking on anymore.
let me know what you think.
I just fed up of the stares and silly little things that keep happening. I am used to stares about my sons behaviour but this is different.
Do i deserve this. Am i mEan.