http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/en-UKMokoFeed10http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/2a/68cab38a0642c4ba54dc0a6bcfe5af_160x200.jpghttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2008/06/17/something-to-share-4326155/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2008-06-17:/2008/06/17/something-to-share-4326155/Tue, 17 Jun 2008 10:06:41 +0200 <p>I received this comment so thought i would pass it on .</p> <p>Hello</p> <p>I have written my first book Not Stupid published by John Blake publishing.</p> <p>My book gives a vivid account of parenting 2 boys with autism and married life with my husband who was diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome 5 years ago.</p> <p>After both my sons were turned away by 26 schools within an hours drive where I live we decided to remortgage our home and set up our own school.<br> 9 years on we have 90 pupils and the school has become a Centre of Excellence. We have also set up a small College for adults and Residential home.</p> <p>Both my husband and eldest son talk about their experiences at school and my husband in employment he has just qualifed as a Barrister and is advocated for adults in employment</p> <p>My book has beenranked No1 for autism on Amazon.</p> <p>Please share with anone you feel maybe interested.</p> <p>Thank you,</p> <p>Anna Kennedy </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2008/06/17/something-to-share-4326155/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>anna-kennedybookautsimhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2008/06/17/something-to-share-4326155/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2007/05/29/happy_birthday_to_make_school_make_sense~2353024/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-05-29:/2007/05/29/happy_birthday_to_make_school_make_sense~2353024/Tue, 29 May 2007 10:01:19 +0200 <p><img src="http://www.nas.org.uk/content/1/c4/96/90/NAS%20logo%20-%20msms.jpg" alt="" title=""><br> The make school make sense education campaign in England turns one year old this week. On 23 May 2006 the campaign launched with awareness-raising events taking place across London at tube stations and Victoria train station. A parliamentary reception at The House of Commons followed the next day. </p> <p>make school make sense campaigns have since launched in Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland. </p> <p>Many thanks to everyone who has supported make school make sense over the last twelve months and has contributed to the successes of the campaign so far. With your help, make school make sense has already started to make a difference to educational provision for children with autism across the UK.</p> <p>Happy birthday, make school make sense!</p> <p>The National Autistic Society's make school make sense education campaign aims to improve educational provision for children with autism, so that every child can get the education they deserve.</p> <p>Local provision for children with autism is often limited, teachers' training in autism is inadequate and children and their families struggle to access the entitlements that are their right. </p> <p>It is vital that the good practice that exists in some areas is extended to all schools in all areas so that every child with autism gets the education they deserve.</p> <p>Until then, they need your help to campaign for change.</p> <p>Autism is complex. Our demands are simple.</p> <p>make school make sense</p> <p>Help make school make sense by clicking <a href="http://www.autism.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=1076">HERE NOW</a></p> <p>There are links for Wales , Scotland and Northern Ireland by clicking <a href="http://www.autism.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=825">here NOW</a> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2007/05/29/happy_birthday_to_make_school_make_sense~2353024/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>senseschoolnashttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2007/05/29/happy_birthday_to_make_school_make_sense~2353024/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2007/05/26/autism_news_that_you_never_knew~2338142/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2007-05-26:/2007/05/26/autism_news_that_you_never_knew~2338142/Sat, 26 May 2007 16:16:11 +0200 <p>this is news that never really made big headlines but as gordon brown is our next prime minister thought i would share it.<br> Back in october 2006 this Autism comment sparked a backlash</p> <p>George Osborne landed in hot water with the National Autistic Society yesterday after he was accused of suggesting that Gordon Brown was faintly autistic.<br> Mr Osborne denied making the claim at the conference, but the society said any perceived use of autism as a term to mock someone could cause deep distress. He made the faux pas at a conference fringe meeting. When asked if he might have been faintly autistic, he quipped: "We're not getting on to Gordon Brown yet."<br> A spokesman for the National Autistic Society said: "It is a complex disability that can be challenging and distressing for the people who live with it. To use the term autism in a pejorative way can cause offence and can increase the misunderstanding and confusion that already exists." Mr Osborne's comments followed David Cameron's personal attack on the Chancellor at the weekend when he described Mr Brown as tragic and weak. </p> <p>From the herald.co.uk </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2007/05/26/autism_news_that_you_never_knew~2338142/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>gordon-brown-prime-ministerhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2007/05/26/autism_news_that_you_never_knew~2338142/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/12/13/autism_in_the_news_and_some_sad_news~1434123/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-12-13:/2006/12/13/autism_in_the_news_and_some_sad_news~1434123/Wed, 13 Dec 2006 18:33:01 +0100 <p>Autistic boy's pain after laptop theft </p> <p>AN AUTISTIC teenager has been left "absolutely devastated" by the theft of his laptop containing crucial GCSE coursework.</p> <p>Kalle Homewood, 14, lost hundreds of hours of school work and personal projects from his home.</p> <p>Kalle, of Nargate Street, Littlebourne, near Canterbury, said: "It makes me feel like I want to punch whoever did this on the nose."</p> <p>His condition means he does not understand the concept of having to re-do the stolen English and Maths work.</p> <p>Mum Rhya said her son has lost a lifeline. She said: "This laptop was his life. He cannot understand why and how this has happened."..</p> <p>I would love to find the person who stole this lads laptop and punch em on the nose too.</p> <p>Not related to autism is the sad news of baby hardie who today lost her fight.</p> <p>A 10-month-old baby who suffered 95% burns after she was accidentally showered with boiling water has died, police said today.<br> Rhianna Hardie was pronounced dead at Bristol Children's Hospital late last night, a day after her parents said she had "stunned doctors with her fighting spirit".</p> <p>The horrific accident happened last month when water from a burst tank poured through the ceiling of the child's bedroom and into her cot.</p> <p>Her devastated parents, 21-year-old Charlie Haworth and Matthew Hardie, also 21, of Taunton, Somerset, were understood to have been at her hospital bedside when she died.</p> <p>Mr Hardie suffered burns to his hands and arms as he pulled his daughter from her cot.<br> "As you got into the room, you couldn't see for steam," he told the Western Daily Press. "I thought at first it was smoke, but then I realised it was boiling water."</p> <p>Rhianna was rushed to Musgrove Park Hospital in Taunton before being moved to a specialist ward at the Frenchay Hospital in Bristol. Her injuries were so severe that she was later transferred to the city's children's hospital.</p> <p>Her two-year-old sister, Emily, who was also in the room at the time, was uninjured in the accident.</p> <p>Both the Health and Safety Executive and Taunton Deane borough council have launched an investigation into the tragedy.</p> <p>Avon and Somerset police said there were no suspicious surrounding the baby's injuries. "The force is continuing to investigate Rhianna's death, along with the Health and Safety Executive," a police spokesman said.</p> <p>A post-mortem examination will be held in the next few days.</p> <p>The council, which rented the home to the family, faces a corporate manslaughter charge if it is found to be to blame for the tragedy. However, a source close to the investigation said this was "highly unlikely".</p> <p>A council spokesman said investigations into what happened were ongoing, and that its "thoughts and best wishes are with Rhianna's family at this time".</p> <p>God bless baby hardie </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/12/13/autism_in_the_news_and_some_sad_news~1434123/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>newshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/12/13/autism_in_the_news_and_some_sad_news~1434123/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/10/24/24_th_oct_am_i_being_mean~1255964/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-10-24:/2006/10/24/24_th_oct_am_i_being_mean~1255964/Tue, 24 Oct 2006 12:48:33 +0200 <p><a href="http://www.runninggoose.co.uk"><img src="http://www.nas.org.uk/content/1/c4/93/52/Autism%20Helpline%20banner%20v.2.jpg" alt="" title=""></a></p> <p>You know i did not really want to write this but i feel i have to have to get rid of the feeling that i want to tell the people involved<br> just what i really think about them. I cant mention names as it just would not be fair on the child involved and in fact i cant help feeling a little<br> bit sorry for the mother. I would be in a class of ingorance if i did not try to understand their issues and struggles in life and every day going's on.<br> But sometimes when somebody goes out their way to annoy you and do things thats are un-acceptable its time to say something or just to get it off my chest.<br> When you have a child with Autism it only takes one thing to change everything. One thing different and its like the world has suddenly changed and there is no way back.<br> A few months ago a new lady and her daughter arrived in the area i do not and still do not really know them. But one saturday my front door was open as a phone engineer was<br> in and out when the said two people walked in our flat and starting looking around.Daniel knows the daughter from school . She does not has Autism but does has moderate learning disabilty<br> to which i was told was because of the way things had gone in her life. The mother seemed to be in need of a wash as all i can say is that they really did smell. They sat down after walking round<br> the flat and asked for a coffee. As it was dinner time and we cant change Daniels routine we offered them some dinner too. The mother refused but her daughter enjoyed it and said thanks.<br> After about one hour i said we had to go out. but it fell on deaf ears as they stayed for about 8 hours.<br> i not really sure why. Then the killer question. could i give her daughter a lift to school as it takes her 30 mins every morning to walk the journey with her daughter. i of course without thinking said yes<br> . but i did not stop to think. Daniel when he found out was in tears he was beside himself. I failed to think about the routine change on Daniel. The school is only round the corner anyway and does not take<br> 30 minutes to walk too. Anyway i had no choice but to tell them due to Daniels Autism (of which they dont know what it is or how it effects him at this time )i Could not take them to school.<br> I took it up on my self to go round and tell them the next day. That night the door knocked at about 11 pm and it was the daughter apparently she had asked Daniel for our phone number and he had not wanted to give it so gave<br> them a wrong number. THe daughter stood on our door step shouting Daniel had given her a fake number and made such a fuss my wife gave her the right number and she went.<br> Wrong move . they rang and rang asking silly things and on the sunday my wife used 1471 and rang them to tell them that i could not take them to school.<br> I did see them later outside where i explained as best as i could in a nice way why i could not do it.<br> They seemed to listen. But the next day some trouble happened and the daughter rang us up trying to tell us that Daniel had told something to someone he should not have.<br> Even if it was true my Son was not told by me or any one else he couldnt tell friends where he lived in case they found out where this mother and daughter lived, but what angered me was that the mother told me she was annoyed with her daughter<br> because she had told school friends where she lived. Daniel did not know she lived close until after the day i was told she was annoyed with her daughter for telling friends.<br> of course we told them Daniel never told anyone and if he did he would not have been at fault. Plus although i did not say it although i wanted too .they are the ones who walked in un invited and stayed 8 hours and told us all there history.<br> Daniel does not like being touched yet the daughter keeps touching him at school and quite frankly its as effected Daniel.(daniel has told her(several times) he does not like being touched)<br> Plus since that day where they were told i could not give them a lift things have happened.<br> I know it sounds petty but hairbands the same as she wears are tied round car wiper blades. the front door keeps knockings and making Daniel jump(the letter box is now bolted shut) broken keys in gate lock .Chewing gum stuck on car door handles etc etc ..<br> The mother making sure she knows we know she is around by standing in front of school doors and even shouting things at me.<br> Daniel has a dog phobia he really is scared of barking dogs.<br> Now they have a dog which is outside with no cover from the weather from early morning to about 12 at night. they never pick up its dog mess and other neighbours to begin with thought the dog was mine. and complained to me about its barking.<br> it never stops barking. I have had to spend money blocking off the fence so Daniel was not to scared to use our door.<br> It also smells really bad of the dog mess and to be quite honest makes you feel sick.<br> its not fair on the dog or us.<br> She has already had a go at people who she has heard shouting shut up to her dog.<br> I dont know whats going to happen next but the way she stares at us is not very nice.<br> I just hope that the move of address were waiting for happens soon.<br> Its proves one thing. the mother did not want to be friends she JUST wanted a lift to save her a five minute walk.<br> I sorry if it sounds means but Daniel has a routine and cant share his car space with anyone or it will effect his whole day.<br> NOw if anyone reads this who thinks i am being mean as i was told something the other day by someone else who told me that they been telling people i live right by and im too mean to give them a lift.<br> well this is my chance to say i did offer but my son comes first.<br> Do You think i am being Mean.<br> Would you even consider stopping if it was raining after what they have done.<br> I do feel mean but they sort of imtimadating us now.<br> And i cant tell the mother what i really think as the daughter is 2 years older than Daniel and quite a lot taller and I dont want Daniel being bullied by her.<br> I know everyone has there own troubles but i have enough of my own without taking on anymore.<br> let me know what you think.<br> I just fed up of the stares and silly little things that keep happening. I am used to stares about my sons behaviour but this is different.<br> Do i deserve this. Am i mEan.<br> <a href="http://www.nas.org.uk/christmascards"><br> <img src="http://www.nas.org.uk/content/1/c6/01/10/18/family_green.jpg" alt="" title=""></a> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/10/24/24_th_oct_am_i_being_mean~1255964/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/10/24/24_th_oct_am_i_being_mean~1255964/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/09/10/catch_up_time~1114277/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-09-10:/2006/09/10/catch_up_time~1114277/Sun, 10 Sep 2006 21:19:53 +0200 <p><a href="http://www.nas.org.uk/msms"><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/274/586274_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""></a></p> <p>As i stated in my other blog Daniel has started his new school for children with special needs and all is well.<br> back to the beginning of the summer which was a scorcher life got a bit difficult but school summer holidays came and went and were all still in one piece.<br> Daniel had good days and bad days. i think the worst days were when the weather was at its hottest.<br> Daniel dont like windows being open or doors open. At home this is fine but in the car stuck in traffic its hell. my old banger dont have air con just the heater blower which is not a lot of use when the air temp is up near 100f .Never left home without at least 10 bottles of water in the car to stave off die-ing from dhydration. Daniel did visit quite a few places with us over the summer and most of these went well. We got the strange looks from some people. Like i say thre is always going to be someone who looks or stares and makes comments about the way Daniel is conducting himself. Any one would think its catching.<br> had some moments in asda where Daniel decided it was time to clear the shelves of all the bread as he found a loaf of bread out of date. he decided that to save evry one from eating bread effected by the loaf that was out of date he would have to remove all the bread. Needless to say he started chucking it away off the shelf on to the floor. why i was being moaned at by the bread stacker Daniel got a foot hold on the bun rack and soon there was buns every where. it took me about 15 minutes to stop him. You see i cant just drag him away i needed to make him know that the bread was ok. because if i didnt then he would be worried for aday or may be a week about the bread being out of date. and then he might Not eat bread for weeks or months so it was a case of sod the bread being thrown and think of Daniel ,. Which i did and got him to listen instead of dragging him out the shop screaming and worrying about bread for the next year.<br> We walk off to the veg isle like nothing had happened being watched by about fifty people. yes its a shame about the bread but then in defense the loaf that was out of date should not have been there . Something i told the bread stacker so who knows next time your breads in date it could be because Daniel made them do their jobs right. ok so everyone is not perfect and my son is not perfect either but at least we trying. now its asda's turn.<br> at the till the normal carrier bag fiasco broke out. I have noticed that the trust worthy can scan their own food and get thru the tills quicker.<br> can i suggest they have a till for people with autism . im not asking to scan my own food just someone on the till who understands.<br> i have said it before about asda and i really do think its autism unfriendly .<br> Now recently i was in chelmsley wood parking in disabled parking bay. (not forgeting my wife is disabled too.) now a car pulled up right by my car and the people inside were straining their necks to see in the car. i wondered what they were after then it dawned on me. they were checking out the blue bag. because my son was at school but i have a big sticker on my car saying proud parent of a child with autism ,to help raise awareness. now they were wondering where the child was as i was parking in a disabled bay. now i have not got a disable badge for my son but i do have one for my wife. anyway i got out the car and so did my wife and i went to the back of the car and they drove off. so with that me and wife went into the shopping center. now i carried the few bags back to the boot while my wife went into boots. then i spotted the people in the car again who were looking for our blue disable badge. they were nearly side by side so i pretended i was talking to my son in the boot. i said really loud so they heard. you stay in the boot to save me time while shopping i wont be long. i closed the boot and walked off, when i got back to car their was a policeman and the shopping center security guard banging my boot .i asked them what the matter was when the people from the other car walked up saying that i had my child locked in the boot.<br> i opened the boot and to show them it was empty and told the policeman my son was in school. i left them explaining them selves to the policeman.<br> after having what has mostly been OLDER people straining and peering in my car for the last 12 years im fed up of it.<br> YOUNG PEOPLE HAVE DISABILITIES TOO.. AND ALTHOUGH SOME WONT LIKE THIS > NOT JUST THROUGH OLD AGE> THERE LIVING ALL THEIR LIFE WITH IT NOT JUST THE LAST FEW> Now if your a blue badge spotter find something else to do. Right thats off my chest.<br> well its nearly time for mid somer murders so i will leave it there for today.<br> i hope this finds everyone well and Remember.<br> You CANT always tell by looking</p> <p><a href="http://users.boardnation.com/~marygrace/index.php?board=;action=viewprofile;user=runninggoose">please click here for the blue badge network </a> .. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/09/10/catch_up_time~1114277/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>danieloldiesblue-badgeautismhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/09/10/catch_up_time~1114277/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/07/15/title~961923/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-07-15:/2006/07/15/title~961923/Sat, 15 Jul 2006 19:11:15 +0200 <p>Its been a bit hectic of late and not really had time to post but Daniel has got his place in a SEN school.<br> I dont know how many people have heard about a new test which could mean hundreds or thousands of un-born babies being terminated because the test could show if the un-born baby has autism. please read my other blog to see my veiws on this stupid idea.</p> <p>On a better note Daniel is really looking forward to his new school in september .<br> He seems a lot happier of late and Daniel would like to say something to his old teachers for the way they treated him and the way they failed to listen to him and adapt to him and the thing he wants to say is.<br> Goodbye..</p> <p>Now with that over he can move on to better things and a better school life.<br> please dont forget to support the NAS Make school make sense campaign<br> <a href="http://www.nas.org.uk/"><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/274/586274_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""></a></p> <p>just click the banner.</p> <p>thanks hope this finds you all well</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/07/15/title~961923/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/07/15/title~961923/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/15/15th_june_bad_good~882588/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-06-15:/2006/06/15/15th_june_bad_good~882588/Thu, 15 Jun 2006 12:50:28 +0200 <p>MRS H told Daniel to get out the class again -Because she was shouting at everyone .Daniel said take it easy please to himself but the teacher heard and asked Daniel what he had said, so Daniel being literal told her. He said take it easy please so she told Daniel to go on get out.<br> Daniel went to MRS M'S class . Daniel said he was surprised today as she told him it was ok and gave him some work and Daniel told her he didn't understand it so she told told Daniel "thats ok i will get someone to help you" And another class member helped Daniel.<br> So Daniel told me that MRS M was nice to him but MRS H was horrible. I explained To Daniel that the teacher sent you out because of what you said.Daniel told me she asked him to repeat what he had said. I said yes but she would have heard some part of what you said before and making comment about the teacher was wrong. Daniel said it worried him the way MRS H was shouting so he thought he would ask her to take it easy.<br> I ask Daniel to try to be a bit more subtle.explaining what subtle means to Daniel took a good 15 minutes although i have reasoned he still does not know. One thing to add, IT states on Daniel's Autism report that that shouting is to be avoided around Daniel. What more can i say than Please Mrs H DONT SHOUT !!!!! if you do- dont blame Daniel for his reaction. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/15/15th_june_bad_good~882588/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>badgoodhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/15/15th_june_bad_good~882588/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/14/14th_june~879679/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-06-14:/2006/06/14/14th_june~879679/Wed, 14 Jun 2006 13:01:11 +0200 <p>Picked Daniel up for his Dinner he gave me some A4 size posters he had made on the school pc. He told me on the way home that he had wrote me a letter on how he feels as today Mrs M had be horrible to him. I asked him what had happened .<br> Daniel was talking about the work to a class member while in maths.<br> Mrs M told Daniel off saying she had already warned him once.<br> Daniel replied saying he had got no warning.<br> She told Daniel to go to the head or Mr K or MRS H.<br> Daniel said ok.</p> <p>He walked to the door but Daniel told me Mrs M said faster i want you out of here now.</p> <p>Daniel told me she pushed him along hard with his jumper scrunged up in her hand.<br> Daniel told her to get off and she would be paying for his jumper.<br> Daniel went to the head MRS O and Daniel told MRS O who said to Daniel cause she didn't she was more like just walking with you.<br> Mrs O told Daniel to go back to MRS M and get her to write what had happened and bring it back.<br> Daniel did this and MRS O said wow this is a lot of things. Daniel told her half of it was not true.<br> MRS O TOLD DANIEL TEACHERS DONT TELL LIES.<br> Mrs R was sent to fetch Daniel work from MRS M .<br> Daniel was told to do the work and he would be fine.<br> Daniel was told earlier on at school by MRS M that everything he does is done on purpose and that everytime he does anything she will send him out the class.</p> <p>What can i say but what a bunch of bastards .<br> I get this vision of my autistic son roaming the corridors all day.<br> "As for Teachers dont lie" i beg to differ but i have been lied to by several teachers . OK some were at a different school.<br> TODAY MY SON TOLD ME HE WANTED TO DIE BECAUSE OF SCHOOL AND SOME OF THE TEACHERS.<br> and now i have to take him back for after noon lessons.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/14/14th_june~879679/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>lies-and-teachershttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/14/14th_june~879679/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/12/mental_mother~872009/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-06-12:/2006/06/12/mental_mother~872009/Mon, 12 Jun 2006 10:36:50 +0200 <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/274/586274_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""><br> On the 8th june we had to visit the shopping centre and we ended up being seen by the mother of the child who had caused us to move Daniel to a different school last year. his mother in the past had called Daniel mental because of his autism infact when i complained about her son calling my son names and kicking my son last year at his old school after being called in to see the head she tried to run me over in her car.Well in fact there was 4 other mothers with her who all got involved. this was in the school car park. the same women had attacked another parent a few months before because they had complained about her son hitting their daughter. Their daughter had tried to commit suicide by taking pills because of this lad. And to think she calls my son mental. In the end because her son made our sons life a misery with his hitting and kicking and verbal abuse we removed Daniel to another school. Well at about 4.15 pm on thursday we walked past this horrible nasty excuse for a person while shopping. She started on my wife who never got involved with her before and shouted look its the mother of the mental retard. well my wife ingored her but this woman followed us up into the main shopping centre. She was shouting and swearing and then she had the cheek to accuse us of looking at her. I told her what made her feel she was so special that she thought we had been staring at her. She went off her head and called me all sorts .my son who was with us had to witness this . The security guards came and she got louder telling everyone at the top of her voice our son was mental . If i was not a male and i was female im sorry but i would have smacked her one straight in the gob . i felt like ramming my size 9 down her throat and stomping on her head. but i did not . and you know why. because silly idiots who think there better and raise there kids to be animals are not going to drag me down to their level. The security guards made her go then i shouted in a calm voice, My son has autism he is not mental and with that carried on shopping any way my son was very upset so i never sent him to school on friday so he could deal with what had happened. Anyway i will be posting this from a mobile device so i hope it posts ok. No wonder her child picks on other children if thats how she chooses to behave . The worse thing about it she has three children and they were all involved in picking on my son when he went to the same school last year. Because of them my child had to move. its a f-ing disgrace that they are still getting away with bullying other kids at their school. I think 5 children moved schools altogether because of them. I know one parent who was afraid to take her two little girls incase she met their mother . And i will say it one more time. Who's the mental one........... </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/12/mental_mother~872009/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>mentalhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/12/mental_mother~872009/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/07/6th_june_did_not_get_time_yesterday~859830/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-06-07:/2006/06/07/6th_june_did_not_get_time_yesterday~859830/Wed, 07 Jun 2006 10:32:28 +0200 <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/274/586274_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""><br> Went to pick Daniel up from school for his dinner and he told me(he does not know how the subject started) that his teacher MRS H brought up how a few months ago there was a strange smell in the class room and no body knew what it was . Well the smell turned out to be some toast Daniel had put in his work tray. What had happened was that he was ill and they sent him home from school and he had just been given the mid morning snack which you can pay for and that day it was toast he had put the toast in his work tray and it got covered over by books and paper. Daniel was sent home and never thought anymore about the toast and he was ill for about 7 days so of course this toast was in his work tray and after when he was well was when he found out the smell in the class room was from this toast he had left in the work tray. For some unknown reason which Daniel says he cant remember MRS H asked Daniel about it.(i mean its been afew months now) Daniel's answer was GOD DAM why do you keep bringing that up, its making me feel sad inside. MRS H told Daniel off for swearing. Daniel said he was not as in his head Daniel knows the word GOD and DAM are not swearing but he cant figure out that when put together like that the two words mean something different although because he says it when it could be seen as a reply some people would naturally say they just think he knows really what they mean when he is just copying his peers but you cant tell the teachers that because it does not matter why he said it but the fact he said it. im sorry but i say bollocks in fact bollocks bollocks bollocks what a load of bollocks perhaps she should not keep talking about something that she knows make Daniel feel sad.But the worst part of MRS H complete utter mis-understanding that day was when she told Daniel he knew he was swearing and that he was to stop playing on words. Daniel asked her what she meant. Mrs H told Daniel he knew what she meant and to stop being cheeky. Just after another child started sticking her tongue out at Daniel and Daniel asked her stop . MRS H did not believe Daniel even though other children said Daniel was telling the truth. Daniel stated that he needed a CCTV so he could prove it. MRS H told Daniel to stop playing the fool and joker and not to be cheeky and learn in future to stop being cheeky. Daniel got sent out the class to another class which happens nearly every day(I KEEP TELLING THEM HE NEEDS ROUTINE)-WHAT A JOKE). he stood outside another class and saw the children beckon him in with hand jestures so like what happened once before he walked in thinking it was ok as he had been waved in.but MRS C shouted how DARE you barge in like this and sent him out side to knock the door. Daniel told MRS C he did not know how to knock the door. MRS C told Daniel he always had excuses and told Daniel he was not wanted and sent him to MR G class. MR G was ok and Daniel stayed in his class and helped MR G with some tokens .MR g told DANIEL thank you and then sent him up to the office as it was dinner time and i was waiting.<br> Some morning......... </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/07/6th_june_did_not_get_time_yesterday~859830/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>nastybollocksteachershttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/07/6th_june_did_not_get_time_yesterday~859830/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/05/5th_june_2006_con_t~855122/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-06-05:/2006/06/05/5th_june_2006_con_t~855122/Mon, 05 Jun 2006 13:49:31 +0200 <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/274/586274_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""><br> after fetching Daniel out at dinner time for his dinner Daniel told me that mrs M had helped him for a little while but told him he had to stop making cheeky comments and to stop using his illness as an excuse. Im getting to the stage where im going to storm in and tell her as it does make me angry. he only says what he sees. she was wearing all green and he told her she looked like a tree. Plus the colour green upsets him. Now the next part really does take the prize for who can upset him the most. Mrs H told Daniel she needed a break from him. (they had only been back two hours after one weeks half term holiday) Daniel told her to have a day off if she wanted a break. Mrs H also said to another lad i bet you need a break from him too. What the hell...... Maybe i should keep him home so they can all have a break .. i nearly never sent him back after dinner time was over.<br> Seeing his face on the way back to school and with him saying to me he cant help being different and knowing that he trys his hardest really makes me want to line up the teachers who dont understand and make them listen and learn about autism .In my mind i want them to feel how Daniel feels they making him bloody depressed. ok they already made him depressed long ago. Why dont they understand. They have been told they know why he is like he is. The red mist is beginning to form and i cant see it going away unless they stop telling him the things they do and stop expecting him to be a perfect like all the other kids. 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Could have been because some kids that go to his school in the year below saw us in a shop and laughed at him for having adhd. it was known by other children he had autism but it took Mrs M to anounce in front of all his class that he had ADHD and since then, a few aweeks ago other kids have been taking the mickey and as i have witnessed it with my own eyes i cant help but feel its MRS M fault for telling the class. It was done as she told him off which is not really acceptable so now everyone knows. I mean would she have said the same thing if someone had piles and couldnt sit still . eg. sit still i know you have piles but its no excuse. ... i think not. well got to fetch him out of school at dinner time so i will find out how his morning has been. Its really hard leaving him somewhere that makes him feel depressed and scared and all i have heard from Daniel the last few days is how he is worried about MRS M. Which ruined his last few days off of half term. Anyway not long until the summer holidays now. I bet if anyone from school reads this they will think how dare i write these things. WEll there is nothing wrong in writing the truth and we know what we know and of course they will always defend there actions as in the best interest of Daniel and the school and i know when i have spoke to teachers that they dont take in what i say so how can i believe they listen to Daniel.The fact of the matter is as they have told Daniel himself they think Autism is no excuse to behave differently from everyone else. How wrong they are. Autism is not an excuse its a disabilty which can be helped by the right treatments such as understanding while teaching until the teachers learn this every child that has Autism will never learn anything other than hating and not understanding school. <a href="http://www.nas.org.uk/campaign">www.nas.org.uk/campaign</a><br> <img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/274/586274_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/05/5th_june_2006_school_restarts~854661/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>schoolhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/05/5th_june_2006_school_restarts~854661/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/03/saturday_3rd_june~851076/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-06-03:/2006/06/03/saturday_3rd_june~851076/Sat, 03 Jun 2006 13:43:49 +0200 <p>Daniel is fretting today as he knows school time is not far off. It really must make him feel terrible at school for him to have changed from being calm to being niggly and grumpy.<br> Tried to get him out on the garden but he wont come out side in case there is bees or wasps or flies.<br> We both nearly got run over in the alley yesterday by two idiots on quad bikes . Now he is frightened of going to the car even more now in case we get run over. The car is parked out in the cul de sac and i cant park it right out side so now i have had to promise to carry him to the car but if that what it takes then so be it.Daniel is on his pc at the moment and as he had a bad night where he never slept much more than 30 minutes in a row i am about to sit down and watch the england friendly. I cut the grass yesterday and it was like chopping down a jungle as it has rained for about two weeks and i could not cut it for the last two weeks and my back feels like i cut a football pitch instead of a small patch of grass but the good news is my tomatos are doing well. I dont know why i grow them because we dont like them . But then we do lots of things we dont like. like sending our child to school . hope this finds you all well<br> <img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/274/586274_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/03/saturday_3rd_june~851076/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/06/03/saturday_3rd_june~851076/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/31/make_school_make_sense~842886/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-31:/2006/05/31/make_school_make_sense~842886/Wed, 31 May 2006 10:49:52 +0200 <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/264/586264_c25ed24b80_m.jpg" alt="" title=""><br> Education is one of the most important issues when bringing up children with autism.<br> Now my NAS monthly mag arrived today and in it is a new campaign they have started as NAS Advocacy for Educcation get over 1800 telephone calls a year from families about problems regarding their child's schooling and we all know these problems are quite often ignored by the teachers and its time we did not have to battle everyday to get the right support for our children. so please join the NAS make school make sense campaign today to help every child get the education which they deserve and is their right. Nas hope that by working together we can all put pressure on local and national decision makers and persuade them that they must make school make sense for children with autism. so please visit <a href="http://www.autism.org.uk/campaign">www.autism.org.uk/campaign</a> and help support the right of very autistic child to get school to make sense. thankyou.<br> today i will sending my make school make sense card to the solihull's council leader please do the same.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/31/make_school_make_sense~842886/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>make-school-make-sensehttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/31/make_school_make_sense~842886/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/29/29th_may_bank_holiday_monday~838603/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-29:/2006/05/29/29th_may_bank_holiday_monday~838603/Mon, 29 May 2006 18:55:28 +0200 <p>Went to see my mums new dog today. Her other dog of 17 years called sally sadly died and she decided it was time to have another dog as she lives on her own and missed the company . We never saw the dog today as my mum had her friends round and there was two other dogs present and as Daniel has a phobia of dogs it was not fair on him if we went in. Although saying that he did like sally as all she did was lie in her doggie bed as she was old. He cant focus on dogs that move or jump up and this really frightens him .although were hoping he will hopefully get to like my mums new dog from birmingham dogs home but with her friends dogs there too it would have been much to much for Daniel to handle so like i say we did not stay. I had to replace the fan today on Daniels cpu in his pc has yesterday it started making strange noises but a quick trip to pc world and JUst £2.99 and 5 mins to fit all is well and he is happy again. Was supposed to go to a party arranged by someone from the autism support group we attended but my wife was feeling a little on the off side so we did not go.. A fly got in the car on the way to pc world and caused Daniel to have a panick attack. Managed to stop the car quickly in a safe place and daniel vacated the car and curled up on the pavement while i got rid of the fly. Daniel asked the lady who served us why she called me love and i had to quickly explain to Daniel as he told the lady on the till that only his mum could call me that as daniel thinks only people married or going out together can use certain words but the lady at the till just smiled which was nice as some people tend to take offence at his comments.We went to mcdonalds on the way home and Daniel had 6 nuggets and fries with a tropicana orange juice and left all the nuggets as he said he had heard about a guy kids talked about at school who had eat nothing but mcdonalds for 1 month and that they only used old age chickens to make the nuggets and it was not fair to take away the mums and dads of young chickens just so we could eat them. I told him they used young chickens now and that was because the old chickens were made into a paste and horrible things were added to the nuggets but now the nuggets were all breast meat and he screamed and hid her face and shouted there is loads of old chickens without their son and daughters because they have been made into chicken nuggets. I just repied that this was mostly true and he never spoke until we got home.After fixing his pc he was in a good mood and i hope he does not worry to much about the chickens . Well its nearly time to watch the telly as there is something i want to watch so i hope this finds you all well.<img src="/img/smilies/icon_wave.gif" alt=":wave:" class="middle" border="0"> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/29/29th_may_bank_holiday_monday~838603/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>chickensmcdonaldshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/29/29th_may_bank_holiday_monday~838603/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/27/27th_may~833131/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-27:/2006/05/27/27th_may~833131/Sat, 27 May 2006 14:27:43 +0200 <p>well Daniel had a whole hour of sleep in a row last night which was good. Even better he had quite few periods where he stayed asleep for 20 minutes so the suitcases under my eyes shrunk by about 1mm but saying that he was wide awake by 5.50am and the only thing different really this morning was watching all them housemates on big brother sleeping at 6.00am. I dont envy them being in the big brother house but i do envy them being able to sleep untill its lunch time. If i won the golden ticket out a kitkat i would go in and sleep- sleep and then sleep somemore but saying that i would more than likely put it on ebay to sell so i could buy a extra large bed so when our son climbs in there would more room to avoid being kicked or elbowed in the night.Daniel wanted to use my pc today but i urged him to use his own in his room as the noise of someone playing a game and typing what seems a thousand words a minute which really does sound like a train clattering over a worn out railway junction is just two much to take 7 days in a row so after a defiant im going to annoy you for 3 hours tantrum to make me say ok use mine he finally gave up and went to his own room .So apart from the constant calls to make sure we have not done a runner we have chance to sit in quiet for a while apart from someones deep bass beats beating through its been quite a good morning. Although its saturday its a no shopping day today as i took Daniel out yesterday as the teachers had a training day well i think thats what they were having. Lets hope it included some ASD awareness training but i doubt it. Good job got we went shopping today as its raining and that makes Daniel worry .Tomorrow if my wife feels upto it theres a party which has been arranged by a mother and father of a autisic boy who attended the ASD support group and there will be about 10 to 15 other children there all with ASD so im sure it will be great fun and i bet we learn quite a bit too.<br> And it will nice to see the other parents from the ASD support group again . Although i was the only male at the group i never really noticed as every one was great. I am still annoyed over the stage 3 warning my son got a few days ago and as yet not been able to talk to mrs M as she apparently was not going to be back in school until the holidays were over so i have to stew for a week. Whats really the worst thing is Daniel is worried he will get expelled and he shouldnt have to worry about things like that but he does and another thing i need to talk to school about is to tell them to stop telling Daniel about how many children go to mainstream senior school . One teacher keeps telling him its not certain he wont have to go to one and that theres 1000,s of children there . Daniel has a fear of large crowds and then when he reacts to what they have said they wonder why. In any case i would not ever send my son to mainstream senior school ever. i would have no choice but to teach him here at home . But as were just waiting for the final printed sen statement which will have our school of choice on it that should happen as there is plenty of time before september. I watched a program about a school in Australia on the teachers tv channel who teach children with ASD and its amazing . I cant for the life of me know how Daniel has managed to cope when i see the type of teaching he really should have had . Well i know all schools differ but i really cant wait to see how Daniel gets on when he attends a special school and they give him the kind of contact and encouragement he gets at home instead of the negative approach he gets from teachers at present who just dont care. well as this is supposed to be our diary and not a place to rant on like my other blog i will change the subject now. Daniel is still in good mood but asked how many days it was until school started again so i told him and he settled down. He tells me he hates school because the teachers pick on him. Well he is out of their reach for the next week so in my mind thats good. Time to get some important letters written so im off . i hope this finds everyone well. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/27/27th_may~833131/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>teachersdanielsleephttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/27/27th_may~833131/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/26/26th_may_sleepless_in_smithswood~830286/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-26:/2006/05/26/26th_may_sleepless_in_smithswood~830286/Fri, 26 May 2006 10:31:58 +0200 <p>Daniel decided to climb into our bed again last night . He seems to be twice as long and all knees and elbows when lying down and even if he does go to sleep moves constantly sort of like a leaf in the wind that has no choice to move because it cant control it self in where it whats to go or be as the wind is in control and this is like how ASD and ADHD effect Daniel but Daniel moves with the ferrosity of a twister so in the morning were all poked and prodded and completely worn out but this happens every night so you tend to get used to it and as at least we get some sleep by not taking him back to his room where he would just scream all night or groan it seems the lesser of two evils. I asked him when he was going to sleep all night in his own bed and he replied when he is 25 so only another 14 years of sleepless nights to go. If you dont see the funny side you would go mad and crazy and end up spinning in circles while waiting for the men in white coats to come collect us. I think its the extreme love you have that keeps your engine going. And the Massive challenge that everyday brings. But GUESS what. we still think were the luckiest parents alive as we have Daniel. WEll Daniel has been playing on his cut down version of a snooker table and today his favourite saying is " i am the best there ever is" "the best there ever will be and the best there ever was in anythinnnngggggggggggg" the anything droning on for about 2 minutes coupled with his loud sudden screams which still make me jump when im not expecting them but i should according to Daniel always be expecting them as i know he always does them so its my fault when i jump while drinking a hot cup of tea and i burn my legs again for the 100th day in row and Daniel is right of course. Anyway He is in good mood today because its holiday time for the next 11 days and he knows he will not be picked on for next 11 days which has made him happy but he he is still worried that he will be excluded from school because of this stage 3 warning and this something Daniel should not be worrying about . i really must go for the moment as Daniel requires my help . hope this finds everyone well.. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/26/26th_may_sleepless_in_smithswood~830286/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>no-sleepsleephappydanielhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/26/26th_may_sleepless_in_smithswood~830286/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/25/25th_may_is_this_for_real~827628/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-25:/2006/05/25/25th_may_is_this_for_real~827628/Thu, 25 May 2006 09:44:22 +0200 <p>This morning we got a letter from school.<br> its all about the day before yesterday in school which you can read in this blog as date 23rd may.<br> Here is the letter<br> I write to inform you that your child Daniel has been issued with a stage 3 warning on the schools Behaviour policy.This mean that he has been involved in behaviour in school which has caused the teacher in charge to take action (you would never guess who - yes mrs M) letters contuines- Their behaviour has caused disruption to the entitlement of every child to learn.<br> Because of this ,several privilages have been withdrawn in line with our policy.These include the loss of all playtimes for the next day, being monitored for 5 days, taking no part in the next class golden time and not being allowed to take part in any school extra curricular activities for the next 5 Days.<br> we hope we can work together to support your child in understanding that further disruptions will not be in the best interest for the learning of your child and we would appreciate it if you could discuss your childs behaviour with him at home. (what do they think we have been doing for 10 years-sleeping)<br> many thanks for your support ( wheres daniels support)<br> yours sincerely mrs M<br> Key Stage Co-ordinator.</p> <p>i will add to this when i have had a cup of tea so dont go away. </p> <p>Well after ringing the school Mrs M is unable to speak to us at present.</p> <p><a href="http://autism.blog.co.uk/">Read what i have to say about all this here at my autism blog</a></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/25/25th_may_is_this_for_real~827628/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>bullyshould-learn-about-asdadhdmrs-mlierhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/25/25th_may_is_this_for_real~827628/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/24/24th_may~825426/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-24:/2006/05/24/24th_may~825426/Wed, 24 May 2006 12:52:37 +0200 <p>Mrs M strikes Again.<br> Daniel has been told off today because he chucked a book over to someone who had asked for it.<br> apparently it was thought someone else had thrown it but Daniel said it was him and that he didnt mean it to hit anyone. He was not given the chance to say why he had thrown it, Daniel tells me he threw it because he was told he could not get up a little earlier in the lessson and as he had been asked to pass the book, threw it instead so he did not have to move.He was given a yellow card for this.<br> she told Daniel he had been cheeky in maths as he had asked her to explain what a word means. Daniel said she told him he was just pure attention seeking and that it had nothing to do with his ASD or adh T yes she does not even know the name of whats wrong as it AdhD so how can she decide its not if she does not even know whats it called. Anyway Daniel told her he does not have adhT but adhd and she told him off by saying how dare you correct a teacher and Daniel tells me he was really scared inside. I just cant imagine why she takes such offence she knows he has ASD and ADHD i suggest MRS M you go and read the same book THE Head told me to read and read it it may enlighten you as you make out to me you understand but its not me you need to show its Daniel. School know that if Daniel asks for something to be explained it should if she thinks Daniel is seeking attention she may well be right he does ADHD . I suggest she looks this up on the internet Too. I may seem like i expect them all to just let him off but it seems to me there the cause of it. And please Their teachers. are they not going to have some bad days like i said in my other<a href="http://autism.blog.co.uk/"> blog </a> Daniel has bad days everyday and cant escape at 3.15 pm everyday . i not saying let him off im saying explain to him better and stop calling him cheeky and saying its not his asd or adhd .<br> Stop FRightening him . INSIDE HE IS IN PIECES BUT CANT SHOW IT. How many times do i have to explain this and you say Daniel does not listen. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/24/24th_may~825426/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>bulliesteachers-who-dont-thinkschoolget-over-ithttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/24/24th_may~825426/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/23/23rd_may~823503/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-23:/2006/05/23/23rd_may~823503/Tue, 23 May 2006 18:59:11 +0200 <p>Daniel had another good morning before school. i of course being only a human being and according to daniel an alien as to him were all aliens and he is the only proper earthling made the mistake of telling him to hurry up and shake a leg as were going to be late for school so Daniel sat there for 5 minutes shaking his leg the last time he done this was when it was pouring down with rain and i had ask him to come on shake a leg as he was getting out the car so while he sat in the car shaking his leg i got soaked . i must admit this kind of literal understanding of words must drive the teachers mad but they must by now surely understand this but they dont and sometimes i think its because they wont. There pride seems to be worth more. I mean they cant have Daniel making them look silly when they can instead make Daniel look silly. Anyway fetched Daniel out of school for his dinner . He seemed a little upset so i asked him simply good morning or bad morning. what he told me was this.he had been walking around on his own at morning play time when another child who i wont mention walked over to Daniel and shouted Oi mental. Daniel did not look at this child but he came back upto Daniel and punched him in the belly and said i meant you mental he then got Daniel in head lock. Daniel tried to get away saying please Dont.. He said to Daniel what are you going to do about it mental. Daniel tried to get him off. A teacher came out and broke it up and sent both of them in and they both got stage 3 red cards. MR K said to Daniel i am not impressed with you and called Daniel naughty and Mrs M told Daniel he was always cheeky.<br> Daniel ran off and knock some chairs over in frustration and then apparently quite a few teachers had to stop him running about.One teacher pulled his jumper and Daniel told this teacher that they would have to pay for his jumper if they ripped it.One of the teachers who stopped him i think was mrs M told Daniel to cut his losses and tell the truth. Daniel asked what he had to cut. he was told to stop being cheeky.and that he had been told a million times to stop being cheeky and the other teachers present agreed with her. Daniel told me he said to himself that he knows as its all they seem to say to him . Daniel thinks its there favourite saying(stop being cheeky)even though he cant think why..<br> Daniel told me Mrs M turned the whole incident around on him and he got the blame. Daniel felt angry as he knew he had not started anything he was the one called mental and he was the one who got punched. Daniel walked off and shouted none of you teachers ever believe me and its always turned around so i get the blame. The head teacher then had a word with Daniel and told him she was always willing to listen to him.<br> Daniel went back into class feeling very unhappy inside. the teacher in class and some other kids looked at Daniel . Mrs H asked Daniel what was wrong and said to Daniel your not having a very good morning are you. while this was being said the kid that had caused all this grinned at Daniel. I am not surprised Daniel feels everyone is against him. Anyway he had agood dinner time with us and as far as i know as he has not told me anything from the afternoon yet everything went ok for him in the afternoon. I doubt the school would have told me what had gone on as its only when the staff are upset i get called in so Daniel had nothing to gain by making any of this up or even letting me know that something like this happened. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/23/23rd_may~823503/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>teachersschoolhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/23/23rd_may~823503/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/23/more_on_22nd_may~822068/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-23:/2006/05/23/more_on_22nd_may~822068/Tue, 23 May 2006 10:29:30 +0200 <p>there happens to be one teacher which i have yet failed to talk to about daniel and i have to say if what im told is true really does need to think about what she says and why she says it. If she thinks what she says is right i dread the thought of being Daniel as daniel has been very down after being incontact with teacher. Yes this is about how Daniel feels and if anyone who teaches Daniel sees this and thinks its not true i can assure you that i have written exactly what Daniel has said which may seem different to how you see or say things . Remember Daniel has ASD and sees things in his own way but just because you may not agree with it does not mean what daniel sees or thinks is wrong.For instance Daniel dislikes any kind of shouting ifr directed at himself. Yet this one teacher always shouts at Daniel . She also has made the comment to Daniel which makes him feel down . The comment goes some what like this and was said to him yesterday. Daniel we know you have problems but it makes no difference to me. I just dont care. I asked him if it was true and he said definately . He has told me this has been said to him before by the same teacher. He has told me several upsetting things about this teacher over the last few months . i suppose its time to get a meeting with this teacher so i can see just what is being said and decide what i can do . For instance Daniel had just come from the toilet and was just putting his inhaler in his school bag in the corridor when the teacher shouted Daniel get in here now. Daniel said ok . other children started laughing.<br> Something else was said to Daniel and she then said if he didnt move to the floor at the front of class near the board she would drag him there.<br> He moved to the front of class and sat on the floor.she told Daniel to turn around. Daniel turned around a full 360 Degrees and she shouted Daniel stop being cheeky. she then told him she didnt care what was wrong with him. Daniel states this is the truth. i do beleive him as the story although slighty different when i asked several times had all the same facts.<br> Daniel also tells me while in assembly from behind the closed serving hatches where the school kitchens are there was a loud crash and they heard a dinner lady shout out in shock the word Shit.<br> Daniel was also given a Yellow card in assembly. which says persistantly talking and laughing and mimicing be quiet actions throughout assembly. signed the teacher.<br> well all i can say is that Daniel dislikes being in room with a crowd and its a real fear. so he does these things because it makes him feel safe inside. its common for many with ASD to do this. Yet again Daniel is told off for something he cant help. also when told why he was not singing he just kept his mouth closed as he had been told to do so. They really must know by now that if Daniel takes something literal then its for real not because he is being rude and when asking him to think about what he has done will just make him think about what he has not done and what would happen if he had done this or that and then forget what he was supposed to be thinking about giving himself thought overload and if the teachers do not understand that the next thing Daniel is libel to do is because he is trying to cover up the fact he doesnt know what he is to do so he does anything which is most times something he should not but he has been forced into the situation by someone who should by now know better and inside Daniel is all confused and hurt but cant show it. So anyone who teaches Daniel should know One thing. Dont SHout AT HIM. Daniel also cant work or settle if the colour green is to be seen near him or on him. So daniel had quite major upsetting yesterday at school and came out feeling quite depressed and yet i bet no one in school noticed he was sad. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/23/more_on_22nd_may~822068/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>schoolasdhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/23/more_on_22nd_may~822068/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/22/22nd_may~819396/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-22:/2006/05/22/22nd_may~819396/Mon, 22 May 2006 12:04:24 +0200 <p>Daniel woke up in a good mood which carried over to the journey to school. He was happy and was looking forward to dinner time. i have to go fetch him home for dinner this week and he sees it as extra time with us. I tried to explain why he has to come home for dinner in my opinion i think he could when allowed to stay for dinner at school again think in his mind i would like to go home for dinner then he might think on the reasons why he was not allowed to stay for dinner then decide that if he does it again he can be home at dinner times with us. will have to wait and see what happens. well im off to fetch him now and as he does not like water on his head and its raining like i have never seen rain before its libel to cause some stress for daniel. will add more after school. daniel always has plenty to say. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/22/22nd_may~819396/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>school-dinnershttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/22/22nd_may~819396/#commentshttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/20/wednesday_17th_july_saturday_20th_july~814464/tag:autism-diary.blog.co.uk,2006-05-20:/2006/05/20/wednesday_17th_july_saturday_20th_july~814464/Sat, 20 May 2006 13:28:13 +0200 <p>Son came out school and about 10 minutes later told me that when he arrived at the staff room he heard a teacher call him an idiot, My son told me that the teacher was told he was out side and my son said he heard the teacher say what daniel the idiot. I went straight back to school to sort it out. never got to see the teacher until friday at 3.15pm. He said he didnt say such a thing. i explained daniel was upset that a teacher he liked had said such a thing but the teacher said he didnt say it . have to leave a line drawn under that one. had quick chat about how daniel sees things and it seemed the teacher understood. Only thing that worried me was when i left he said he had a feeling why i wanted to see him and thought it was about that. i can only presume he can mind read as if he did not say daniel was an idiot why would he have been expexting it about that. that being the word used. Well i'm no idiot and i know my son sees or says things that others wont notice but in this instance i my self am inclined to feel that daniel heard something and that the teacher maybe covered it up. I cant be sure but because of daniels behaviour i suppose i will never get the truth. all i know where daniel is concerned there is no smoke without fire so i know he heard something. but it was asked then why he was so close to the staff room door. Daniel of course was waiting outside and daniel also quoted several times that the door was slammed shut nearly hitting him in the face. well all i can do is listen to both sides but show support for my son. Anyway told my son the good news about his statement so he can go to a school where asd is understood. It does not matter how hard his present mainstream school trys they can never in my eyes understand just how asd effects daniel as i always get the vibe and i'm pretty used to the vibe by now that they think he is just naughty as at times he can be good. Anyway as advised i am going to keep a diary as i know school do . As i found out yesterday. i will write here everything daniel goes through so the two sides can be seen. as i know from daniel that my present blog father of achild with autism has been veiwed by school . Well maybe they could learn from it who knows. so i will keep this on line diary updated as often as i can. Daniel woke up today (sat 20th) in a strange but happy mood. he turned big brother on E4 and sat there still for about 1 hour then after eating his breakfast decided he would play with his wrestling dolls. He gave me a great big cuddle and then gave his mum a big cuddle and told us he loved us . He is at present using his own pc . He is connected to the internet and he never fails to amaze me at the speed he can type . the last time i checked this it was about 70 touch type words a minute which is fantastic . well its raining today and daniel loves the rain has there is less flies and insects about. daniel has just imformed me that he is feeling hot and has stripped down to his under pants. He has been known to tell teachers in midwinter that he is too hot in the playground and take off his coat and jumper. well i have to go help him with something now as he wants me to explain why the eject button on the keyboard ejects cd-roms and how the keyboard knows so that should take a fare while. he has been good natured and full of smiles since 12 so i can only hope it stays this way . not that it ever does. As long as he is smiling thats all i need to see. See you soon . hope this finds everyone well </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/20/wednesday_17th_july_saturday_20th_july~814464/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>dairyhttp://autism-diary.blog.co.uk/2006/05/20/wednesday_17th_july_saturday_20th_july~814464/#comments